How to Control your Anger without Hurting Yourself or those Surrounding
As a child, anger at times makes you feel like you are about to burst. Sometimes, anger bosses you around and controls your thoughts and actions, rather than you managing your anger and taking control of what you think and what you do. Being the boss of your anger is important to you and those surrounding you, because if you are not careful, you can compromise your own safety and that of those surrounding you. However, there are things that you can do to ensure you take control of your anger issues;
- When you are angry, just like when you get frightened your heart races and to cool down, you need to take back your heart in its normal pounding pace. To achieve this, you should take a really deep breath until you feel that you are controlling your heart beat again.
- Prior to opening your mouth or saying something nasty that you might regret later, you should count from 1 to 10 in your mind in order to take time and relax. If you still feel that you are not over that anger, count 1 up to 10 again in your mind. If you feel better, take your time to contemplate on what to do or say. This will lead to making a great decision without harsh emotions.
- If your location is provoking your mind to get angry or upset, feel free to change the location and move to a different kind of environment where you can think of what to do next.
- Talk to yourself and tell yourself that by no means should you ever hurt someone by saying nasty things or by hitting someone with your feet and hands.
- Remind yourself why you are angry using a firm voice, rather than using a loud and shouting voice. Once you realize why you are angry, you will avoid venting your anger on people who are not concerned.
In most cases, in order to get rid of your anger, there is need to do something.
Things to do to get rid of your anger
- Take something that you can squeeze like a ball, and tell yourself that you are squeezing your anger out of your system.
- Get out there and start jogging or walking until you feel you are calm.
There is a positive side of anger
- There is a chore that you really hate doing like cleaning up the shed, mowing, sweeping or cleaning your bedroom. Use your anger to perform the chore and by the time you are done, you will have gotten rid of your anger and the chore will be over.
- Dance really hard while listening to a favorite music
- Do relaxation exercises on the floor while listening to some cool music
- Talk over the issue with a person that you trust and who can advise you accordingly.
At times we tend to get angry at things that are none of our business. If this is the case with you, talk to the other person after you regain calmness and explain everything then walk away. If the issue concerns you, you should come up with a solution after dealing with it. If the issue is not worth your worry, forget it. If you use the above information, you will manage being the boss of your anger.